Something Isn’t Working. And It Keeps Showing Up.
Relationship counselling for individuals and couples across the Northern Rivers, with in-person sessions in Burringbar and online support across Australia.
Maybe it’s the same conflict, the same distance, the same reaction.
Or maybe something is happening within you. You understand the situation, you’ve thought about it and you’ve tried to change it. Yet somehow, you keep ending up in the same place.
When talking about the problem isn’t enough, it can help to understand what keeps driving it.
The Problem Isn’t Always The Problem
A disagreement might be about money, parenting, sex, trust or how much time you spend together.
But the topic is often only part of what is happening.
Fear, resentment, withdrawal, pressure, disappointment and protective responses can shape what happens next, often before either person has had time to think.
The work is about recognising those dynamics more clearly, so you have more choice in how you respond.
Counselling Across The Northern Rivers
I work with people across Byron Bay, Ballina, Lennox Head, Mullumbimby, Brunswick Heads, Ocean Shores and surrounding areas.
In person in Burringbar
Online across the Northern Rivers
Online throughout Australia
For many people, online counselling provides the flexibility to get support without adding travel time to an already busy week.
12+ Years Experience
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PACFA Registered
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50+ Intensive Programs
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12+ Years Experience · PACFA Registered · 50+ Intensive Programs ·
What We Can Work On
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Recurring Conflict
Understand what keeps escalating the same disagreement.
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Emotional Distance
Explore what has changed and what is getting in the way of feeling close.
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Relationship Difficulties
Understand your own responses and the dynamics between you.
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Trust And Resentment
Work with what has happened without getting stuck in blame.
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Communication
Look at what happens when difficult conversations begin, rather than simply learning more communication techniques.
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Feeling Stuck
Understand why familiar situations keep producing familiar outcomes.
Words from Our Clients
Meet Your Counsellor, Uri
PACFA Registered Clinical Counsellor | Trauma-Informed Psychotherapy
Uri Bookman brings more than 12 years of experience working across counselling, psychotherapy, relationships and personal development.
His professional development includes couples and relationship therapy, attachment, trauma, IFS, EFT and NVC. He has also co-led more than 50 intensive men's programs and trained more than 120 therapeutic coaches.
His approach is grounded, direct and relational, creating enough safety for difficult conversations while keeping the work focused on meaningful change.
THE PROCESS
A Clear Process for Understanding and Creating Lasting Change
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Couple Counselling, with a Clear Place to Begin.
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No. Couples often seek support long before a relationship reaches crisis point. Repeated conflict, emotional distance, resentment or the feeling that you cannot resolve something together are all valid reasons to seek help.
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Yes. Relationship counselling isn't limited to monogamous couples. I welcome people in a range of relationship structures, including consensual non-monogamy (CNM), polyamorous relationships and other relationship configurations.
My approach is to understand your relationship on its own terms, without imposing assumptions about what a relationship should look like. Together, we can explore challenges, improve communication, navigate differences and work towards relationships that feel more connected, respectful and fulfilling.
The focus is on understanding the dynamics between the people involved, navigating challenges, improving communication and building relationships that feel more connected, respectful and workable for everyone involved. The approach is tailored to your relationship structure, needs and circumstances, without assumptions about what a relationship should look like.
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Yes. I welcome LGBTQ+ couples and people of all sexual orientations and gender identities.
My approach is grounded in respect, curiosity and understanding, without assumptions about how your relationship should look or function. The focus is on creating a space where everyone feels heard, exploring the dynamics within your relationship and working towards meaningful change together.
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This is common. Both partners do not necessarily have to arrive with the same level of motivation. There does need to be enough willingness from both people to participate honestly. A Clarity Call can also help the more ready partner understand the approach and decide how to discuss it with their partner.
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The aim is not to determine who is right or wrong. The work focuses on understanding the cycle between you and helping each person recognise their own contribution without blame.
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It is understandable to feel this way, particularly when you have been hurt or frustrated for a long time. Couples counselling is not about dismissing what has happened to you. It is about understanding the dynamic well enough to see what each person can take responsibility for and what can change.
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Couples counselling can provide a structured space to explore what has happened, the impact it has had and what would be required for trust and commitment to be rebuilt. Whether repair is possible depends on the circumstances and the willingness of both people to engage in the process.
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Yes. Couples counselling is available online across Australia, with in-person sessions available in the Northern Rivers / Byron Bay region.