Transformative Couples Counselling & Therapy
Trauma-informed, coaching-infused therapy for emotionally intelligent couples navigating midlife, parenting, and deeper connection
“Uri has been instrumental in helping us reconnect after our relationship fell apart.”
— Happy Client
"We both felt heard and seen.”
— Happy Client
“Uri created a safe space for both of us, guiding us toward
relating respectfully and communicating compassionately.”
— Happy Client
Is Your Relationship in the Danger Zone?
Even emotionally strong couples can find themselves stuck in patterns that chip away at connection. If you’re feeling constant tension, disconnection, or disillusionment—this section is for you.
Are you constantly feeling unheard and stuck in unhealthy communication loops?
Miscommunication and emotional distance are among the most common sources of relationship conflict, often amplifying misunderstandings into entrenched patterns.
Are you unsatisfied with your physical or emotional intimacy?
Intimacy isn't just about sex—it’s emotional closeness. When either form fades, couples frequently report feeling disconnected and emotionally isolated.
Is trust broken or strained, leading to ongoing conflict?
A foundation shaken by betrayal, inconsistency, or secrecy can erode the emotional bond. Trust is essential for connection, and its absence can deepen conflict and misunderstanding.
Are money disagreements creating tension or secrecy between you?
Financial conflict ranks among the most common stressors for couples—whether from hidden debts, mismatched spending habits, or the emotional meaning we attach to money. These issues often reveal deeper unmet needs in trust or communication.
Is parenting stress or imbalance eroding your connection?
Differences in parenting styles, unequal caregiving, and exhaustion can drive emotional distance and frustration. These repeated tensions often mask deeper relationship dynamics, not a lack of intent.
These warning signals aren’t the end—they often precede your capacity to heal. When identified consciously, the Danger Zone can become a pivotal catalyst toward deeper connection.
Ready to shift toward growth and presence? Let’s explore how couples therapy can guide you back to closeness, clarity, and calm.
The Relationship Zones Model
Which zone do you choose to be in?
Your Path to a Thriving Relationship
You’ve identified what’s holding you back. Now, let’s explore how to move forward—together, deeply, and intentionally.
Couples Counselling and Therapy
Phase 1: Reset and Rebuild (From Danger Zone to Growth Zone)
Over 12 weeks, we’ll focus on interrupting unhelpful patterns, rebuilding trust, and teaching vital communication skills. This phase will help you and your partner break free from destructive cycles and establish a solid foundation for your relationship.
Phase 2: Deepen and Thrive (From Growth Zone to Blossom Zone)
This optional six-month journey is fully customised to your unique relationship goals. Together, we’ll explore areas of growth such as intimacy, trust, finances, family of origin and shared values. This phase will empower you to cultivate a thriving, flourishing connection where both partners feel seen, valued, and aligned.
Couples Retreats
Couples Retreats
Establish a solid foundation for your relationship.
Trauma-Informed Mediation
Mediation
Untangle conflict with respect and clarity.
Phase 1: Reset and Rebuild
The Painful Danger Zone
The Danger Zone is where many couples find themselves when they first seek support. Constant arguments, defensiveness, and unmet needs create a sense of instability that impacts not just the couple but everyone around them, including their children.
Phase 1 is designed to help you step out of this cycle and move into the Growth Zone, where safety and respect begin to flourish.
The Hopeful Growth Zone
During these 12 sessions (over 3-4 months), we will:
Identify destructive patterns: Recognise the cycles that keep you stuck in the Danger Zone.
Rebuild trust: Lay the foundation for mutual respect and understanding.
Teach essential communication skills: Learn how to express your needs and emotions clearly without blame or judgment.
Create a shared vision: Establish new agreements and boundaries that support a healthier relationship dynamic.
What You’ll Achieve:
Move from reactive to responsive communication.
Create a safer emotional environment for yourself and your loved ones.
Identify and overcome the key barriers in your relationship.
Build a foundation of trust and respect that allows for growth.
Phase 2: Deepen and Thrive
The Wonderful Blossom Zone
After resetting and rebuilding your relationship, it’s time to move into the Blossom Zone—a space where relationships flourish and thrive. In this phase, we focus on customised topics tailored to your specific needs, ensuring that your relationship continues to grow and deepen.
Over 6 months (12 sessions), we’ll explore areas that matter most to you, such as:
Sex and Intimacy: Rekindle your connection and navigate mismatched desires with compassion.
Finance: Create alignment around money decisions and reduce financial tension.
Shared Responsibilities: Build equality in household and life management tasks.
Well-being: Support each other’s physical, emotional, and mental health.
Values Alignment: Discover how your personal values can align with your relationship values.
Trust: Strengthen and maintain the trust you’ve rebuilt.
Family of Origin: Discover how your family shapes who you are and how you relate.
Quality Time: Remove distractions (like social media) and focus on gratitude and presence.
This phase empowers you to create a flourishing relationship where both partners feel truly aligned and fulfilled.
About Uri—Your Relationship Guide
After seeing how others have transformed their relationships, you might be wondering: Who’s guiding this process?
I’m Uri Bookman, a process-oriented psychotherapist, certified coach, trainer and facilitator specialising in relationships and communication. With years of experience, I’ve helped countless individuals and couples rebuild connections, navigate conflicts, and create thriving relationships.
What sets my approach apart? I believe that romantic, familial, or professional relationships are the key to awakening and growth. By working on yourself, you can transform the dynamics around you.
My methods are rooted in emotional intelligence, Nonviolent Communication, and my unique Relationship Zones model, which I’ve developed to guide couples through the different stages of their journey.
Whether it’s teaching vital communication skills, resolving deep-seated patterns, or guiding couples toward mutual respect and intimacy, I provide practical tools that empower you to create lasting change.
Let’s work together to make your most important relationships a source of profound connection and fulfilment.
Take the Next Step Towards a Thriving Relationship
Investing in your relationship is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. Whether you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or simply want to strengthen the bond you share, the time to act is now.
Are you ready to transform your relationship into a source of connection, respect, and fulfilment?
Here’s how you can begin:
👉 Book a Free 15-minute Call: Let’s discuss where you’re at and how I can support you. This is your opportunity to ask questions and see if this process feels right for you.
👉 Schedule Your First Session: Ready to dive in? Reserve your spot today and take the first step toward resetting and rebuilding your relationship.
This process is not about quick fixes—it’s about creating lasting change and nurturing the relationship you deserve.
Your thriving relationship starts with one small, courageous step.
I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
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